Could This Sleep Separation Technique Work For You?

With a combination of practical experience and expert advice, Supernanny supports parents by giving them tools to be their best when kids need them the most.

In a recent episode of Supernanny, a Couple is taught a sleep separation technique that is designed to help your child get used to sleeping alone in a bed. Supernanny explains to this tired Mom and Dad how this technique will make it easier for them to gain a period of blissful independence each evening before heading off to dreamland themselves.

The steps are as follows:

• Supernanny emphasis the importance of following a calming bedtime routine.
• Once you’ve put the little one to bed, do not lie down or sit beside them. Sit on the floor instead and keep your head down so they can see your profile but not your eyes.
• Turn the light off and say “now it’s time to be quiet and go to sleep”.
• If your child keeps on talking to you, insist that “it’s sleep time now” in a gentle but firm voice and don’t get drawn into a discussion.
• If they get out of the crib or bed, put them back with a little cuddle and kiss the first time, only a kiss the second time, then with very little physical contact after that. This is probably the hardest part- but consistency is key and in the long run will help your child feel secure in their bed without feeling any anxiety of being left alone.
• Move further away from the bed each night, little by little
• Eventually you will be sitting with the door open, and finally you will be able to just say goodnight and leave the room.

If you’re struggling with getting your baby to deal with sleep separation anxiety this method may work for you, but whatever method you try, remember that the first thing we all need to sleep well is the knowledge that we are safe and secure.

The goal when dealing with separation anxiety should be to increase your child’s confidence level in being separated from you, i.e. that you will be back.