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This Mother’s Genius “Hug Button” Can Help Any Kid Get Through a Day of School

No child is the same, that’s for sure!

Not every child is the type to barely say goodbye to Mom before walking into the classroom each morning; many kids are quite the opposite, and though they may actually love being at school, they don’t love being away from home, their parents, as well as their creature comforts all day.

When Louise Mallett’s youngest son was feeling anxious about his first-ever all-day of school, the Mother came up with a genius way to curb his nervousness — and her solution is something that parents can use in any situation in which they’re away from their kids while still fostering independence.

“So my littlest baby had his first all-dayer at school today, having been in for a couple of morning settling-in sessions,” the mom wrote in a post to Facebook. “I could tell he was feeling a little emotional this morning, so we had a chat and came up with the idea of having a heart each and if we pressed it, it sent a hug to the other one . . . it totally worked! I drew a heart on both our hands and gave him a spare one on his arm in case the one on his hand wore off. We ‘charged’ them by holding hands on the way to school and when I picked [him] up I said, ‘Did you get my hugs?’ and he happily said, ‘Yep!'”

Louise’s son admitted that he had to press his heart for a long time during the day but that he didn’t cry at all, despite having shed tears at a few of his half-day preview mornings the previous week. Now that her little boy is all set at school, thanks to her brilliant concept, Louisehas  let it sink in that she actually needs the hug button just as much as her son does: “Here’s to many more happy days at school while I sit at home with the dog and cry that all my babies are at school now.”

Wine Festival For Moms Triggers Debate Over Drinking Culture

A woman in Toronto who organized a daytime wine festival for new Moms has found herself caught in a whirlwind over the pervasiveness of alcohol at a time when heavy drinking is on the rise among women.

The weekday event, titled “A Very Mommy Wine Festival,” was supposed to give new moms a chance to get together and have fun without the judgment and “mommy-shaming” which they consistently face, said organizer Alana Kayfetz.

The 33-year-old, who is Mom to a one-year-old son, argues that the backlash is simply another facet of the pressure placed on mothers.

“If this was a man’s beer fest where babies were welcome, it would be celebrated, it would be revered,” Kayfetz said. “We would say ‘Oh that’s so cute, look at those dads guzzling beer and holding their babies.’ No one would question it.”

However, critics, some of them experts on substance use, have now expressed concerns that making alcohol a focus of social events normalizes drinking and it increases the risk of binge-drinking, a behaviour that has grown among Canadian women despite hitting a plateau among men.

According to the latest data from Statistics Canada, the number of teenage girls and women who reported drinking in the last year has not changed since the mid-1990s, while the proportion of teen girls and women who reported heavy drinking has gone from 8.3 per cent in 2001 to 13.2 per cent in 2014.

In comparison, the proportion of teenage boys and men who reported heavy drinking in the last year has remained around 23 per cent.

When having a drink or two is normal at social events, it can be a slippery slope, said Catherine Paradis, a senior research and policy analyst with the Canadian Centre on Substance Use and Addiction.

“The more you drink, the more likely you are to binge-drink,” she said.

Binge-drinking may be defined as consuming five or more drinks on one occasion for men, or four for women.

Part of the problem is that alcohol is “everywhere,” from races that see runners travel between breweries to university information sessions to cooking shows, Paradis said.

“And now, you feel isolated and at risk for post-partum depression and anxiety? Join the boozy mom playdate,” she said.

Ashley Wettlaufer, who’s a researcher at Toronto’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, said events that prominently feature alcohol typically have alcohol brands as sponsors, which is a form of stealth marketing much like product placement in movies and television.

“This is another way in which women are being targeted — the brands are aligning themselves with, say, breast cancer charities, for example,” Wettlaufer said.

“We now see events like beer yoga advertised on social media and of course groups and events like the mommy wine festival,” she said, mentioning that Canada’s current regulations on alcohol advertising don’t apply to the internet and social media.

Though most research on alcohol ads has focused on youth, it suggests exposure is linked to increased drinking and positive impressions of brands, she noted.

“This is all concerning because of the health impact of alcohol, especially for women,” such as increased risk of several cancers, including breast cancer, Wettlaufer said.

Kayfetz, the organizer, said that drinking at the festival was optional, as it is for every other event she organizes through her company, MomsTO.

Regarding the marketing — which includes taglines such as “babes on the hips, wine on the lips” — is tongue-in-cheek, she said.

“I never thought about what we’re doing in part of the dialogue of the larger marketing phenomenon, what’s happening with alcohol being marketed to women,”she said.

“We tried ‘Mommies that like to drink tea, join us,’ but nobody came.”